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Is Someone You Love Hurting You?
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Signs and Symptoms of Abuse
- You are ridiculed, put down, made fun of, or belittled.
- You are not free to come and go as you wish.
- Your possessions are damaged.
- You are verbally attacked or accused.
- You are spied on, followed or harassed.
- You or your children are emotionally deprived.
- You are isolated from family and friends.
- You are forced to have sex against your will.
- You are refused help when you are sick or injured.
- Your finances are restricted.
- You are left in a dangerous place.
- You are pushed, shoved, slapped, kicked, strangled or threatened with a weapon.
What You Can Do To Help Protect Yourself and Your Children
- Call 911 if you are in danger or need help.
- If you are injured, go to a hospital emergency room or doctor and report what happened to you. Ask that they take photos and document your visit in writing.
- Know where you can go for help and tell someone what is happening to you. Have the phone numbers of friends, relatives, and domestic violence programs with you.
- Plan with your children and identify a safe place for them: a room with a lock or a neighbor's house where they can go for help. Reassure them their job is to stay safe, not to protect you.
- Arrange a signal with a trustworthy neighbor (for example, if the porch light is on during the day, call the police).
- Keep any evidence of physical abuse (ripped clothes, photos of bruises, injuries, etc.).
- Keep important items with someone you trust:
- Spare set of keys
- Some money
- Birth certificates
- Driver's license
- Set of clothes
- Immunization records
- Social Security card
- Insurance papers
- Food stamps
- Plan the safest time to get away
- Contact a shelter to find out about laws and other resources available to help you before you have to use them. A shelter can help you plan ways to protect yourself and your children.