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Are You an Abuser?

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Are You Hurting Someone You Love?

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Abuse is:

Through a Child's Eyes

  • These thoughts way most heavily on a child's mind during school hours when the child is not home.
  • Constant worry does not allow them to pay attention to their school work.
  • Children who live with abuse may have a hard time relating to friends their own age.
  • It is not uncommon for children to feel guilty for having fun. Many children don't want to leave their battered parent alone.
  • Many teenagers experience embarrassment. They may not want to invite friends to their house for fear that a violent incident could occur.
  • Because children of violent homes live with such uncertainty, they may feel that life will continue to be unpredictable. So they worry about their future. They may give up hope and decide it is not worthwhile to set goals or learn self-control.
  • Many children who witness abuse become victims of abuse in future relationships, or may even become abusers themselves. Also, many of these children abuse alcohol and drugs.

Are you ever afraid that your actions will cost you your partner, your kids, or even your job? There is another way.

It is never OK to hurt the ones we love, even when life gets us down.

Abuse often starts with verbal acts and grows into physical acts. It's time to change before it grows into something more.

Make a change.

  • Lower your voice
  • Take a walk
  • Count to 10 or 20 until you calm down
  • Put your hands in your pockets and wak away
  • Use kind words
  • Take a deep breath, step back, cool down
  • Call your local program for help
  • Show respect for your partner
  • Stop playing mind games
  • Call a leader in your faith community

There are no excuses. Taking things out on the ones we love is abuse. Batterers fall into no specific categories or age groups. They may be unemployed or highly paid professionals. The batterer may be a good provider and a sober and upstanding member of the community.

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