Toddlers often have a blanket, doll or stuffed animal that accompanies them everywhere. And if it doesn’t, everyone knows because the child will be very upset.

A “lovey,” as these adopted pals are sometimes called, eventually becomes worn and tattered through constant use. The worse it looks, the more a child seems to love it. If your child has a special blanket or toy, you may wonder if it’s a sign of insecurity. It’s not.

Child development specialists agree that a lovey is a wonderful way for a child to learn to comfort himself. Adopting 1 is a sign that a child has developed inner strength and resourcefulness, qualities that come from being well-nurtured by a loving parent.

You may wonder if your child’s dependency on a “lovey” is healthy. The answer is yes. Toddlers go through big changes as they navigate their world and become more independent.

They struggle with separation anxiety, fear and frustration. A soft, cuddly “lovey” helps them get through it. By age 4, children are better able to regulate their emotions and likely won’t need to rely on their lovey as much.

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